Social networking sites bad for mental health?

I am a member of three different social network sites, only because a friend from college invited me to join. I'm a loner but she is social and she has a big list of friends, and I look through her profile and see messages she has sent to her friends and I can't help but think she cares about them much more than me. I also look through her pics and see the fun times she has with these friends and they look so close in the pics. I have barely no one on my friends lists and I can't help but think that I am just an accessory to add to her friends list to make her look more popular. We had a romance once but that was five years ago and we never kissed or anything but held hands and hugged as she was in a relationship. I feel that social networking sites are making my depression worse and am thinking of quitting them for good. Anyone else feel that these sites suck?

Social networking sites bad for mental health?
if you are a loner, but would like to change that, you can do what i'm trying right now. practicing doing new things that i don'tfeel comfortable doing but yearn to do, and allow myself to do them even while i feel uncomfortable. Because the thing you have to realize is...that most other people can't even tell hwo you're feeling or what you're thinking. You're the only one who knows you best..these other peope don't know You. You know, they can't recoginzie the way you are..they need much more time to be able to do that..after they've gotten to know you. Now, it does happen, though, that someone who is in the same situtation as you or has been..can recognize how you are feeling or whatever it is..what you are thinking even. But that's usually like Not the case though..Most people won't even notice you're feeling insecure or uncomfortable about this new experience you're going through at the time [when trying something new] and they're focuzed ont ehmselves and are insecure too, so if anything they will just think that it's something they did wrong ...like ok that person is a little snobby..hmm..or like..you know? they'll think it's about THEm. LOL so common with the human population. LEMME TELL YA. lol we're all so self-absorbed...so don't beat urself up about being self centered or too worried about ur own needs...lmao...u know like the only reason it could be constantly on ur mind if it is..would be cuz u haven't tried and gotten through the epxerience in one piece lol. so just try it and let urself be ok with not feeling comfortable while doing it. It's a challenge, but many things in life are.





always remember, tho, everyone is self-absorbed and everyone is usually mostly thinking about how You're Perceiving THEM or whatever it is instead of the other way around. but when u've been urself and have felt that u accept urself after that experience..u feel much safer in the world..and much safer in ur own skin. Cuz u now trust who you are more now and feel more capable as a result. You feel more capable of doing something new and getting through in one piece. it won't be that daunting anymore and you won't feel like new things will be all that much of an obstacle anymore. So remember...if you wanna feel in control of your life, you have to lower perfectionistic standards and realzie that it's ok to feel uncomofrtable with a new experience..but know that the other person usually won't be able to tell if ur uncomfortable, and if they do by some chance, they won't care cuz they'll feel flattered u've gotten the courage to talk to them.....remember everyone is self-centered. And so...allow urself to make mistakes and to try new things and experiment..don't be too hard on urself like that and see that doing something for the first few times is always challenging, but it can be fun if you just allow urself to be uncomfortable and realize ur '[already, yes] succeeding jsut by Trying!! big w00t to that=]] Hehe. Good luck.





xxTakeCare





I had perfectionistic parents..plus I've been shy for a long time. Don't let ur parents attitude get to you. Fockers. lol. They really never made me feel comfortable with mistakes tho. So anyway. =] You know what to do. Right? 'Luck.
Reply:Sounds like a little depression jealousy coming out, huh? Not to worry, it happens all the time.





I think you really like this girl more than you say and are feeling a little "jealous" of her friends for using up her time, maybe? Or could you just be envious of the friends she has because you aren't an easy friend maker?





Hon, only you can change things about you. Get out more and meet "real" people. Anonymous people on the internet aren't really "friends" now, are they? Friends are those who stick by you, they're always there for you, they talk with you and to you. Wouldn't you rather have a warm blooded person to talk with than an internet "friend"?





I don't know if I've made any sense to you, but I just think you are too young to be stuck on the internet not experiencing life. Try it, you may like it.