Social Workers make me cry?

My mom left my brother alone for like 15 minutes he's 3. She went to the corner mailbox. Anyways a noisy neighbor called the cops and long story short, a social worker came by tonight and said certain areas of our house were a fire hazard and it's like um where? And they are sending another social worker tomorrow. And my own mother got threatened with jail. I mean it's overdoing it. I'm a teenager and I'm under school stress with finals and regents and this lady expects me to help my mom sort things by tomorrow and she basically nitpicked my room and I have never felt more threatened in my home, I almost cried. I'm a teenager, of course my room may be a little messy. I mean SOCIAL WORKRES ARE SUPPOSED TO HELP NOT BE ARROGANT THE B WORD

Social Workers make me cry?
social workers pretty much get to do what they please.





try to be as helpful as possible to your mom that way this case can be closed as soon as possible.





you do not have to let the social worker in without a court order HOWEVER that person is the deciding factor in what happens so it's a better idea to cooperate instead of make the job harder and frustrate and anger the social worker.





good luck, I hope the social worker decides whats in the best interest of the family.
Reply:Its ok. you can cry. just watch your brother well, clear up the hot spots, and close your blinds from that pesky neighbor. if you feel that they have discriminated against, you can write a strong letter to the head of the state or the company..
Reply:Cool.
Reply:I agree with you. Unfortunately some social workers are too stupid to pay attention to the real important issues. See if you and your mom can find a free legal service, depending on what is available in your area - legal aid or legal resource centre. Or call the office the social worker is working from, ask to speak to the manager, and complain that you feel intimidated and pushed around by the social worker. Or, if its really bad, find out which authority licenses the social worker and submit a complaint to the authority that the social worker is intimidating and not supportive. that should get their attention. Good luck with that.
Reply:Refuse them entry. without a court order they can not enter your home.
Reply:THAT IS SO MESSED UP WHY IS YOUR NEIGHBOR DOING THAT ITS LIKE IF ITS HIS BUSINESS, AND I UNDERSTAND YOU CAUSE IM UNDER THE SAME STRESS RIGHT NOW ABOUT THE SCHOOL THINGS!
Reply:I had a social worker tell me to leave my long time partner rather than try to resolve issues ....... I finally followed what I was told and after resolving the issues we've gotten back together and omg things are fab.





they tend to push things to the extreme...its like it's their job to break up families. it's insane.





funny thing is there are people I know (unfortunately) who abandon their kids and dont feed them and leave them alone, drive drunk....etc etc but they cant validate the information of heresay because kid is too young to call the cops when she's starving.....anyhow.....they never get anything done with them.





your mom does not have to allow the social worker in her home. she can tell them it traumatized the kids and she'd be happy to meet with them in their office, but not necessary to do this to the kids. sounds like your neighbor needs some dirt dug up on her and then your mom can set her straight. everyone has demons in their closet. sometimes nosy people have to be dealt with rather than looking the other way. sorry to hear about your difficulty.





try to remember this is your moms problem as an adult to deal with. dont take it on your own shoulders.....if your mom talks to you about it and it upsets you then she needs to know it's too much for you right now but that you love her....
Reply:The problem is that the social worker generally are not trying to be harmful and in these cases it is considered to air on the side of caution. Your mother left your brother alone, and with the exception of her own testimony the worker has no idea have long the child was left alone, and have often this happens. While the first responder is very nit picky you'll find that the second one will rule out some of the more obvious arguements. Think of it this way, is it better for them to go over everything with a fine tip comb and find your place to be a safe and healthy place, or just run in and out and leave children in the hands of those that abuse. From your prospective two very different cases but two a third party its not that black and white.


The best thing to do is be agreeable, speak clearly and explain everything throughly. The last thing that you would want to do is make yourselves seem more suspicious.
Reply:i didn't know social workers did fire inspector work on the side?
Reply:omg im soo sorry i really hate nosey neighbors. i really hope they dont take him away from your family. they do over do it. good luck!
Reply:Your Mom was very irresponsible. Your neighbor did the right thing by calling child protective services....what if there was a fire in that 15 min. or your brother seriously injured himself. Then what??
Reply:I am SOOO sorry you had to go through that!! Not long back I had to take my girls to the Health department to get there shots and it was one of the wrose experience's ever. They were snotty and made you feel like the scum of the earth. I thought they were employed to help people not act like they are better than everyone else. Well I'm sure they are not all like that..at least I hope not!!
Reply:I'm a social worker also.... well used to be. The only important thing is that there's bad people everywhere. I mean that beeing a social worker doesn't make you perfect. There's bad social workers, there's bad doctors, bad teachers, etc. The social worker maybe wanted to help you, really. Sometimes to confront reality makes people cry, and that's normal. Maybe she is bad, but maybe she wants the best for you.
Reply:Well they recieved a call from someone who called them. You ( or your mom) can express this to the social worker and explain it further... sometimes they are just checking to see if things are alright , then they leave you alone.
Reply:aw hell naw i would be like bitchhh slappin some hoesss by now!


thats so mean. im so sorry just tell them off and give them a lecture!
Reply:Leaving a three year old alone for any amount of time is not a smart thing to do, the neighbor might be nosy but it was the right thing to do, that is what child protective services is for. Sounds like there are other issues of concern in the house, if things aren't endangering anyone an investigation will show that and they will close the case if there are reasons for concern it is better it happens this way than after a tragedy and every asks why something wasn't done sooner. Your mother should be proactive and get you in to see a counselor and sign up for some parenting classes, that will help her case.
Reply:well, just go meet a social worker and marry him

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